Obliged by some primal urge to think negatively, we default into a cocoon of 'comfort zone' security, and our very own behaviour fosters the outcomes we hope to avoid.
So says Comms Vision speaker and leading performance coach Dave Alred MBE, who would reform the entire concept of failure and even proposes that human potential has barely been tapped, and is ultimately an unknown quantity.
Alred displays a rare enthusiasm for what is possible and, if it was within his power, he would ban the word 'failure' as it is not in the human interest.
"People can perform," he said. "They will always get there in the end. If not there yet, it's not the end."
Alred's approach to performance improvement was clear from the off and he wanted no 'playing safe' from the audience. "Convention does not challenge people, nor does fear of failure. As managers and coaches we can change that," he commented.
Sticking to conventional ways will only reinforce the status quo that is a grim legacy of growing up, noted Alred. And the effects of all this will only be curbed by overturning long held assumptions about personal development.
"Why do kids learn quicker than adults?," he asked. "It's attitude. They are excited when successful, and simply try again when they fail. But adults are hard wired to the idea of failure when not matching their intentions. The human brain goes straight to the consequences of failure before celebrating success.
"We need the enthusiasm of a child. It's never too late to change and grow. If enthused correctly people will do anything. We are not even scratching the surface of human potential.
"What stops us from succeeding? Convention becomes our sanctuary and attitude protects the status quo. It takes courage to change. So fully consider conventions and assumptions and how they can block the road to progress."
Nurturing people to defy convention and perform better also challenges business leaders to enable improvement. They should be mindful of the pitfalls of conventional assessment, such as marks out of ten which stifle development. "Such methods create a mental ceiling and even slow down the journey to the top," added Alred. "There should be no limits to what we can do."
Going for success may perforce introduce a state of vulnerability because change introduces new processes, and when under pressure we may doubt what we can do and unpick procedures that should be second nature. But, believes Alred, harbouring enthusiasm and assumptions of success creates a new level of activity and a positive vibe, which in turn supports learning and development.
One of Alred's tactics when helping companies to improve their performance is to encourage people to do a seven foot standing long jump. During the process they tip towards a point of no return. This process needs to be ingrained through ongoing practice which enables the act to be done more deliberately. But when the consequence of failure is higher (for example, the same jump but between two buildings), the fear interferes with the process. "The key is to follow process and stay focused," said Alred.
Above all, he gave an intelligent indication of how to bring discipline into play and fashion a better performing business, rather than default at every turn into a sterile world of self-limiting conventions and assumptions.
"Fear of failure keeps us in the comfort zone," commented Alred. "But the Ugly Zone is where it all happens. How can we get into that area? We need to inject enthusiasm, vibe and excitement into what we do, and create a wow factor that enables us to improve and succeed."
Key points
• Effort is success, there is no such thing as failure
• Any marginal improvement is winning
• Injecting enthusiasm, vibe and excitement into what we do creates a wow factor
• Building self esteem creates commitment
• Start assuming you will succeed and progress
• Defy convention. You'll be in the race, but never win
• Praise the commitment and attitude before the outcome
About Dave Alred MBE
Dave Alred MBE is a leading performance coach whose achievements include nurturing rugby world cup winner Jonny Wilkinson and helping Luke Donald become the world number one golfer.